While the Bible Belt is known for its devotion to traditional values, Southerners don’t do so well on one key family value: They are more likely to get divorced than people living in the Northeast.

Tougher finances, unrealistic expectations/standards, unwillingness (or inability) to stay physically attractive (that is LAZINESS), lack of education, TOO MUCH education, the Welfare State (one which makes Men/Husbands – the traditional breadwinners –  unnecessary and expendable), extreme CAPITALISM coupled with extreme individualism… these are the main reasons that marriages are failing. And they will CONTINUE to fail, until people realize that marriage is an OUTDATED institution (much like handwriting/cursive skills or ability to use an abacus), an institution which needs to be basically outlawed to TRULY separate Church from State!

Hey, it's just a few eggs broken at the alter of civilization... AMIRITE??

We went out to lunch, and you scolded me loudly in PUBLIC, because I didn’t tip enough.

Foolish me, I chalked it up to that Angry New Yorker attitude. The masochist in me wanted to see through that and see the real you. A potential buddy, who can teach me something new or interesting. Plus you’re lesbian! Just like my old BFF Michelle! So, y’know, YAY for diversity!

After consistently expecting me to pay for outings and drinks, you labeled me as CHEAP (I remember your exact words: “not generous”), just because I don’t enjoy being used by someone I’m still getting to know, ESPECIALLY if we’re NOT dating or intimate! You were calling me names because I’m not a flamboyant extravagant irresponsible douche, and I expect Fair Play and Reciprocity from a FRIEND! When did being fiscally responsible become a fucking demerit??? See, that’s why black people in this country are poor and STAY poor.

By the way, I noticed you NEVER did treat me to dessert, like you’d promised. Several times.

Yeah, look in the mirror.

Anyway… yet, like a good buddy I am, I invited you into my home for dinner, and you still found a way to be totally obnoxious, questioning me about what I’m serving you. IN MY OWN F***ing KITCHEN, Natasha.

“Holy Rudeness, Batman!”.

Seriously, what were you in a past life, a barbarian?

Of course, this was just before buttering me up with how you think I’m “really cool” and we’ll be “good friends”. Of course I believed you, because I’m naive like that. Then, like an idiot, I confided in you re: a few personal matters. Little did I know that that big nigger mouth of yours wasn’t only good for munching rugs.

Then, after that awful, tasteless “dinner” (which I basically paid for, goddammit!) at your completely unnecessary and pretentious Deluxe Apartment In The Sky, you cut off contact with me without rhyme or reason.

Then I heard you were talking about me behind my back.

I shoulda seen that coming.

You’re quick to talk about other people, quicker than a crack fiend being shaken down by the local five-oh. I should have known you’ll talk about me. Well, now I know. It’s my fault for thinking better of you. You use the word “friend” so casually, it holds no gravitas for you, because you do NOT know how to be one. You CAN’T be anyone’s friend. You’re not emotionally mature or stable, and you might never be. You’re too focused on money, superficialities, appearances, and material things. And you looooove attention. Of any kind, male or female. For all your high-minded talk about how black people should be more unified and be good to each other, you’re the WORST offender. You’re a complete phony, a disgrace to the Negro race. A race that I’m unfortunately forced to SHARE with you and your ilk.

You’re a sad, EMPTY shell of a human being.

Wait… No no, no… I’m sorry, I misspoke… Human? No. I don’t believe you HAVE a human mother OR father, because you were CLEARLY raised by WOLVES.

In conclusion, Natasha, please eat shit and die.

Sincerely,

A down-to-earth person who’s NOT an Angry Lesbian New Yorker.

PS: Do NOT bother call, text, or email me… you’re blocked. I won’t read any emails/texts, or listen to any VMs from you.

PPS: Your dog smells like, real bad. Like a cute little furry bucket of sewage. I mean, seriously, BATHE your fucking DOG.

1: Choices
I’m not buying your statement about how you decided to give The Other Guy first crack at a relationship, JUST because of how you met him. Whether you meet someone “the traditional way” (which is WHAT exactly? Grocery store? Football game? Random Boyfriend Rain from Heaven?) or online, it’s all a gamble, and I believe you’re intelligent enough to know this. In fact, eHarmony tries to help filter out the obvious incompatibilities and increase your odds a little, but at the end of the day, you might as well be in Las Vegas.

No, just say it like it is: “He’s tall, and you’re not”. We’re both middle-class, hardworking, health-oriented, educated black people, we have SO much in common, and it looked like we had so much chemistry, but apparently nothing matters, because I am 5’8″ not 5’11″. Technically I could be The Second Coming of Christ, and you’d STILL go out with the taller guy, even if there’s statistically a MUCH higher chance of him being a mediocre or unfaithful boyfriend (remember, 90% of younger, possibly better-looking women around here are chasing THE SAME MAN). But I am sure my words will fall on deaf ears… That’s just how you black women are wired: go with the tall guy (extra points if he’s a little thuggish), even if there’s no guarantee that he’ll be any better than the SLIGHTLY shorter, more empathic, compatible, and “relationship-ready” guy.

Am I just talking out my ass? Well, look at your past: you’ve had several chances to get it right, have you not? And did you not meet BOTH your exes – and possibly other bad boyfriends – in the “traditional” way? “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” Something to think about. Definitely something you will remember when THIS new guy breaks up with you or is unfaithful. Have fun with that.

2: Misrepresentation
So if you had such “skepticism” about meeting someone online, then WHY, in all that is holy, DID YOU SIGN UP FOR IT??? For CRYING OUT LOUD, man!!! Subscribers on there are putting down good money and investing the time and effort to try a non-traditional route to meet someone that might be a good match for them. Why would an apparently hardcore skeptic like YOU jam yourself in there and clutter up the place, wasting peoples’ time and money? Case in point: I literally changed my weekend plans, so I could hang out and get to know you better… under the [valid] assumption that you were interested in reciprocating (very few women actually PROACTIVELY ask me to come out and do something with them). You let me believe that I didn’t need to “play games” with you, that you were done with all that immature BS.

Then at the last moment… Sunday morning, literally THE LAST MINUTE… you basically kicked me in the balls, punched me in the face, clotheslined me, gave me the double-middle finger, and bailed out like I was a burning fighter jet in WW2.

(Name deleted), that’s the ultimate misrepresentation… you’re not ready to date on eHarmony.com, yet you sign up, pay money (I assume), and lead people on. That’s extremely inconsiderate of you, don’t you think? You should be surprised that I’m not more upset about this.

3: Self-respect
This is “Grown-Up Dating Etiquette 101″, but I guess you needed a refresher. When you’re not sure if you’re committing to getting to know ONE guy, do NOT let him foot the entire bill for a date. Either chip in your half (or third), or opt to meet for coffee & conversation ONLY. Remember the Nigerian guy who just wanted to meet you for coffee & chat? That’s the way to do it UNTIL you’re sure you want to commit to dating and knowing THAT guy.What YOU did, is called Meal-digging (yes, it’s an actual term, look it up). And no, it’s not about the money (don’t be silly, I know you drive a Mercedes), it’s about your Self-Respect (or lack thereof). In 2010, Real Ladies in pay their way (at least at first).

And get this: the next day you couldn’t even GIFT me $10 to get fruits (you drive a friggin’ Mercedes, right?) … that right there gave me pause, but I naively brushed it off. However, having retro-analyzed our conversations and finally seen the Big[ger] Picture, it is clear to me that you have a rather selfish streak and probably a strong feeling of Entitlement. I dare say your exes probably were not completely at fault for dumping you.

Epilogue
You know, even though I was dissed and hurt on Sunday, I know rare to find an educated, non-obese single black woman around here… so yesterday I WAS going to swallow my pride and offer you my hand as a Pen Pal (we could learn a lot from each other), but I’m SOOOO glad I took one more day to think things through! See, you’re obviously not “different enough” from other black women… you can take the person out of the ghetto, but you can’t…. well, you know the rest.

FYI, please don’t bother contacting me, your messages will be summarily ignored, and your emails deleted with extreme prejudice.

Have a nice life.

Obviously I don’t agree with everything the original poster said (especially about the violence, shooting, etc) but I thought I’d republish it here for you all to enjoy and comment upon.

Enjoy.

The main problem is this: All that men want from women are threesomes, and maybe have kids when they’re older. Women are killjoys taking this pent up demand and providing this threesome heaven for only a handful of lucky males, and rubbing these few male’s successes in the face of all the other unfortunate males.

In the average male’s eyes all that they see are women claiming to not want subordination, claiming to be equal and claiming to be fair about delivering sexual excitement to them when in fact the females are simply using those concepts as excuses to avoid sex with most males, and deluge one or two preferred males.

Women have it all wrong if they think that empowerment changes any fundamental biology in them that makes them become some sort of equivalent to males. No. Women are submissive. Period. They are born into a role of submission. It may anger them, but who cares. A woman is born to submit to impregnation. Either they accept that they are submissive or die a spinster. Submissiveness, also, for some reason is seen as a pejorative by many women. However this only seems to be due to the fact that subconsciously they are likely to end up with a lower tier male. Every women LOVES the idea of being submissive. Of being protected. Of being favored. Of being told what to do. But only when that submission is paired with a highly valuable man. Women despise the idea of being trapped with some guy with low value or someone losing their value. The female is merely a genetic mechanism the looks for the right protector. All of this nonsense about rights really is just a female ploy to be free to deny sex except to all but the best players.

All that empowerment does is allow the female to choose to become submissive to an ever concentrating selection of males. That’s it. And that it what is happening.

Attractive females are given so much in today’s world, from free school to free jobs, that they essentially live as perpetual children, lost in silly fantasies and tv crushes to the detriment of most of the willing males found around her.

Why most males are so pissed is that we see our youths in practical terms, and women do not. We know that science allows for use to do whatever we want without any risk of pregnancy, and if you’re smart no STDs. What this means is that your youth can be spent just going after hot sex without any penalties. In fact males simply compare each other by the number of parters each gets before marriage.

However women are not treating the consequence-free sexual reality as a candyland. In fact women, and especially hot women, are using this consequence free environment to restrict their sexual escapades to a handful of males, turning what should be an era of free love into one of high priced whores. This is what explains the explosion of pimp worship, and to a lesser extent pornography. Women, esp attractive women, have driven up the price of flashy sex and curtailed the years normally associated with sexual dominance by average males that the value of sexual imagery and those who provide it has gone way, way up. As women gained more power they simply chose to reserve their vaginas for the most acceptable man. This simply creates a sea of sexually malnourished males. Women have exploited the freedoms in the society by creating virtual harems between a thimbleful of men. This is merely a reflection of the concentration of wealth in our society, there is also a concentration of sexual opportunity today. Average males today can no longer expect to enjoy a healthy and productive sex life based on what they come to expect from the freedoms of technology. They can’t go from girl to girl like in the 70′s because females have gotten picky, spoiled and ruined by playboys. All this does is inflame the jealousies of the volatile male pride. At first the only males left on the sidelines of sex were the exceptionally neurotic types, prone to mathematics and quizzical thinking. They were not likely to rebel. Now more and more males with wholesome characteristics are finding themselves virgins in their twenties, and as their population swells, so to will their resentment.

The average men who enter adolescence expecting a level of freshness from their females are finding that the women are wrecking their bodies, giving the sweetest taste of their essence to the few, and only getting a taste of that flower after it has withered dry. The situation stabs at the soul of many men, many not realizing their position until they’ve married one of these unattainable females out of desperation and finding out that the kid isn’t his or that she’s filed for divorce on the honeymoon. How do you expect men to react when they find that they live in an era of consequence-free sex, yet all of it is suddenly going wholesale to the guy in class that looks like a movie star, leaving most guys stuck watching porn for years until they get a job that outclasses most female salaries. And by then their best years are behind them, with the male having gone grey attempting to accumulate wealth just for a taste of the hineysuckle denied to him in college? But then by then all the best females are single moms impregnated by their beer buddies, and the rest are crusty, fat, old hags? The years of porn merely adds to the average male’s depression, because of the two reasons he watches it. To stroke jealousy and/or revenge feelings when seeing other males get sex, and secondly to evaluate what sexual flavors he should expect to get when he gets a girl. And today expecting those delights are not unreasonable. Porno is just the average guy’s way of peeking into the sexual heaven afforded to the jocks and pretty boys getting all the attention. This single fact, which is often written off by women, is the reason for all the shootings, anger and violence towards women. Beautiful women have made themselves less accessible, yet more perverse for the males that get them. We need more beautiful women on drugs, stupider, less sophisticated and not a crime to lock a bunch in a room and impregnate them. The alternative is the destruction of society by angry men. Read on.

Women would be able to have all the schools, and jobs and senate meetings that they want without protest from men as long as the most beautiful of females provided orgies to quell our passions. All men have egos to coddle. If not, then the traitorous female will ultimately incite violence.

This also partially explains the so-called Peter Pan phenomena. Many males that earn money in their 30′s often extend adolescence and delay what was traditionally thought of as adult male behavior as in marrying and caring about family. But what is actually going on in the Peter Pan syndrome is that these males with money are mimicking their caddish alpha male idols. These males are delaying “manhood” because they can. This is simply because of the sexual irresponsibility that women are reserving for the few, but denying the many. Almost as if women WANT to be impregnated by an unattached man, and then convince some mope to marry her and take care of her kid. Newly rich 30 year old males fully expect that they will be able to impregnate a flighty girl and move onto the next in a dance of pleasure, like what all the sports stars, celebrities and leaders do.

But ultimately the society is at a crossroads where all the males know that their sex lives have no reason to be so barren, and all the females are choosing to ignore that reality to stroke their own chaotic egos. This is why even the word slut is almost no longer an epitaph. Attractive women pretty much understand that they are playing a sex game with a few top men to chose from. They also know that they love having sex with a variety of people so long as it keeps them in that circle of top men. Everyone can admit to themselves that attractive women are expected to have soiled themselves with quite a few men and loved every minute of it. Pornstars are merely females who decided to capitalize on the lack of pretension. So we have a boatload of females giving fantastic perversions to a few males and patting themselves on the back for it all. When other males catch wind of this sexual escapade imagine how insulted they must feel when they are told that they are not good enough to have sex with her and her mom at the same time? To add insult to injury is that in contemporary life the girl often flaunts her chosen male’s supremacy in the faces of the envious men. Because she is so beautiful she often leaves a trail of broken hearts in her climb into an artificial tv wonderland of designer clothes and coifed hair. The pretty females of the society are not using their sexual gifts to spread happiness like expected, instead they are rubbing salt on the wounds of those she deems inferior by giving sexual sunshine to a small number of guys with looks (money, incidentally becomes less of an attractor as women earn more of it!) Then at the end of the day this same girl takes the job you applied for.

In this circumstance the normal flow of psychological milestones are disturbed. Males need to get to know females, especially attractive females, in order to understand the underpinnings of desire and human compatibility. This flutter of sexual activity is meant to be like a hot sun that the males are able to look back to with fondness as their lives cool down as they prepare for a long and winding marriage. The psychological satisfaction of youthful sex is meant to keep the male complacent with work in his older years and no longer a rebel longing for sexual highs. But now with that being denied, society will have to face the brunt of resentful, jealous and nefarious males stuck with having to pick from the demolished old/fat women and without a wide sexual past as comfort that they were once studs.

Now the average male has fewer opportunities to stroke their egos with an average female because she is too busy dreaming of ending up on American Idol and marrying a Disney boy toy. The females have placed a huge premium on themselves through this crucible of looks and with it goes the stability of human culture and the rise of envious male tempers.

In the modern era men and women know that they can indulge in their appetite for sexual pleasure without consequences, however most females are only choosing the most herringbone perfect males to give this wonderful life to. In essence sexual maturity, self-esteem and pride are being withdrawn from a huge population of males raised in this female holocaust. As much as the pundits would like to claim that we live in a depraved society, that depravity is only enjoyed by the treasured few males in today’s world, and many many females. Anal sex, oral sex, and threesomes galore are now experienced by many females gladly giving these treats to males they want in their lives. Make no mistake ALL men want to explore these sexual delicacies as ways to stimulate their females. As well, ALL females want to become subject to the humiliation of things like double penetration – but only by the right males. But all this merriment comes at the expense of those left out of the party. The many men who have no ticket into the adventurous female’s heart have no choice but to only restrain themselves when they hear rumors of everything the beautiful girls are doing with other men. In today’s world the stakes of not being a preferred male are greater than ever before. As now it means a person’s whole youth can become a nirvana of sex, a limelight of pride and a ride through society on a body wave made of females. Conversely it can be a disgusting shadow life, expunged to the fringes, suicidal, living in constant glumness and shame. With nothing but the radioactive light of another male’s success to guide you. Leading you on, but sickening you at the same time.

Without a female to reflect their manhood males become vicious and violent as they cannot respond to exclusion with passivity. Women at least have a maternal sub programming that keeps ugly females content with extended family. As time goes by and more females chose to keep a whole population of males in the disposition of little boys the world will swing to the violent as sexual demands become too pent up. As this is a war of status, the females with the highest status have the most power. Thin white females, who are considered the prettiest, will have to open themselves up like pornstars to the masses or the revolt will come like a blaze of gunfire. Men are dominant in the end and females must understand that without coddling males en mass we will lash out at the void you have left us in. No other solution exists.

WITHOUT WARNING.

SIX. FUCKING. TIMES.

Warning: This video/audio is a bit hard to watch.

http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/crime/2009/10/09/pn.cop.shoots.homeowner.cnn

Well, you know what, it’s the victim’s fault for looking mexican. Everyone knows that chubby mexicans cannot be homeowners, they should not carry guns (even legally), and definitely should not be married to cute, healthy, non-obese, articulate white women.
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Fucking racial profiling.

The police officer was actually CLEARED of wrongdoing. WTF?? Where is fucking JUSTICE in this society? Where’re our vigilantes? Where’s the cold hand of veangance? I am so pissed right now, because this poor guy’s life is ruined for no other reason than the police fucked up (and admitted to doing so) and yet the police officer WALKS AWAY. Home to his OWN goddamn family. Because, of course, police officers value THEIR lives more than that of other citizens (law-abiding or otherwise).

This is fucking BULLSHIT.

My heart really goes out to the wife of the victim. Goddamn racist cops, man. Can you imagine if the homeowner was BLACK? Right now they’d be planning his funeral, because he’d have been “accidentally” shot TWELVE times, tazed, and set on fire for good measure. And he need not even be carrying a gun. It’d have been done just on principle.

Man, this shit will never end. It will NEVER end.

And I don’t mean African-Immigrant women either. Those ones have their own set of challenges and quirks, none of which I’d classify as anything even approaching the raving madness which is African-American women.

Now, please don’t ask me to back up my statement with stuff like ”facts” and “research”.  What respectable clinic, agency, or research group would be suicidal enough to publish anything that even HINTS of gender-biased data?

Look, eventually I’ll get around to writing my book and telling stories of my experiences and encounters. Until then, you’ll have to just trust me and my experiences and observations:

Black women are certified bat-shit insane.

More high-end magazine than your typical Bible, the approved American Bible Society text is laid out in easy-to-read columns and paragraphs using chapter headings only, no verses. Totally unique in format and design, the contemporary photographs complement the story, provoke thought and connect to your everyday life.

I think “sex sells” is being taken a little too far here, bordering on outright blasphemy.. Why do we need pictures of celebrities in our Bible? What is this, My First Picture Bible? What’s next, Dr. Seuss’ Guide to the the Scriptures?

Like all religious holy texts, The Christian Bible is, by necessity, a dense book. If you don’t take your faith seriously enough to read even a few verses a day, pictures – let alone completely irrelevant ones – won’t make it any easier to digest.

Even if this glorified – pun intended – picturebook is being marketed towards a younger, “hipper” audience, it will still fail. Thing is, young adults don’t LIKE to read, they want to look at pictures or watch a movie. Youngsters, especially in the Western World, are generally retarded and most have ADHD anyway.

Look, I’m definitely no saint (in fact I am an angry, jaded, bitter, faithless person) but I DO know what the Bible is about, having read it cover-to-cover at least THRICE in my lifetime.

And this, sirs, is NO Bible.

That's the problem that Bible Illuminated tries (and fails) to address... no matter what we do, any Young Person caught reading the Bible is immediately (and ironically) assumed to be teh GAY.